Last week, something happened to me.
I had a moment of self-doubt, uncertainty and confusion about something that was coming up in my life.
I wasn’t sure what to do.
I was questioning things, thinking about what I needed to do, what I wanted to do, but I wasn’t sure and I didn’t feel confident that I could make that decision.
So what do I do when this happens in my life now?
I GO WITHIN.
I realize that everything happening externally is really just a reflection of what is going on internally.
I sit down and I take it back to myself:
Where am I not loving myself fully?
Where am I not showing up 100% for myself?
What am I not expressing that needs to be expressed?
Where am I not being authentic?
It always comes back to Self-Love.
Every. Single. Time.
No matter what is going on outside of you– all of the answers are WITHIN.
So what did I do?
I sat down and wrote Vows to Myself.
Yep– just like you would say wedding vows when you are getting married– I felt compelled to write a list of vows that I intend to stay true to myself on in my lifetime.
Sure, I have many beliefs about myself now that are absolutely spectacular and wonderful that I have ingrained into myself and my subconscious mind over the years that are now TRUE for me– but I haven’t ever actually written them down into a concise document like this– a MANIFESTO, if you will.
And to be honest… this IS how I live my life now.
I live a heart-centered authentic life doing only what I love and feel passionate about.
And these vows that I have written allow me to go even deeper into the values and principles that resonate the most for me.
Your vows and values in your life might be completely different than mine right now.
However, I want you to read mine and then after– I want you to write your own SELF-LOVE VOWS.
My commitments to myself looked very different back 6-7 years ago when I was still in recovery.
Now– these Vows feel SO GOOD to me and RESONATE with the deepest part of my heart, soul and being.
Here are my own personal SELF-LOVE VOWS:
I vow to myself:
to always put myself first.
to unapologetically being my best, truest, most radiant self Always.
to believe in myself Always.
to have faith in my dreams.
to FULLY live my one wild + precious life.
to live what I long for.
to HONOR my innermost values.
to value + trust my gut knowings + intuition
to forgive myself + be gentle with my innocent heart.
to stand firmly in what I know
to be true + make a bold, lifelong commitment to love.
to give myself all of the love I need, want + desire
to live passionately + blissfully
to be loyal to myself first.
to not give a FUCK about what anyone else thinks
I commit to radically honoring + expressing my creative gifts + the precious gift of my life
to live authentically in alignment with who I really am.
I dedicate myself to loving myself FULLY with an open blissful heart.
I love you, Lauren.
I believe in you + your value.
I believe in your worth.
I believe you know what you are doing. There is nothing to figure out.
There is only flow + allowing.
As I open myself up and let God guide my steps, wonderful + amazing things begin to happen.
I come into the wholeness of who I am.
I own and take 100% responsibility for my life.
I love everything about you, Lauren.
Your soul is on fire.
The fire of spirit has been lit within and now is the time to really soar.
It will seem like magic! You will see. (It already does!)
I liberate myself.
I am ready to live my fullest potential.
I vow to always supporting me + my dreams
I dedicate myself to love, no matter what.
to know that I have the right to choose what I allow + don’t allow in my life.
I create my own reality.
There you have it!
Do know what happened the day after I simply took the energy back in to myself?
I didn’t focus on solving the problem.
I didn’t worry or stress or overanalyze or complain.
I actually didn’t think about the problem at all– rather all I did was focus on taking care of myself and making sure that I was committing to always being true to myself.
And you know what happened?
The solution simply just came to be.
I didn’t block the flow with worry and anxiety and concern.
I opened myself up to allow the answer to reveal itself to me.
I spoke my full, powerful and authentic truth.
I expressed exactly what I needed to say without worrying about what the other person would think.
I didn’t worry about what the outcome would be, or try to control what would happen.
I simply showed up coming from a powerful place of self-love for myself.
And this I find to be the most powerful way to approach any problem.
To take it back within you and ask yourself–
What is it within me that is creating this problem for me?
Where am I doubting myself?
Where am I not loving myself?
How can I show up in this situation from a place of full, complete + unconditional love for myself?
How can I show up coming from a place of power, confidence + authenticity for myself in order to create the best outcome?
Surprisingly enough, it works.
Go ahead, try it!
Write your own self-love vows.
Read them out loud to yourself every single day.
See how it shifts the way you show up in relationships, the way you show up in your work, the way you approach your children.
See how it magically begins to transform the relationship you have with yourself.
This is the magic formula.
This is what we come back to when the ‘shit hits the fan.’
We always come back to LOVE.
LOVE is who you are.
LOVE is where you find yourself again.
LOVE is the only way out of the hell that is the eating disorder.